Hello, Goodbye.

April 24, 2009

oh dear oh dear. It’s not that I don’t have anything to blog about. It’s not even that I don’t have time or that I’m busy. I’m just getting lazier. I find myself talking to myself/GOD more than blogging, which is really just fine in my opinion, or I’d rather take out the good old pen and journal and jot down incomprehensible blurbs rather than trying to string everything together on the laptop. Seriously, laziness is such a drug.

Anyway, here’s something I thought about like, a week ago. I categorize my friends. Which is the strangest thing to say, I know, but it’s absolutely true. There’s the friends that you go shopping with, the ones that you ask for help with homework, the ones that you go to concerts with, or the church friends, or the party friends, the friends that you tell all your gossip to, or spill all your problems to, or the backup friends (that sounds horrible.).. but then I realized that I don’t have a category for the friends that I can just talk to. I’m not talking about I-need-help-because-I-have-problems kind of talking, but the friends that I can seriously just call upĀ at night and have absolutely nothing to talk about. And usually, those kinds of people fall into the category of “boyfriend.” But why? Why does it have to be that romantic other that you can just call up everyday for the sake of calling? I’ve realized that nowadays, everytime someone calls me, the first thing I ask is “Why did you call?”, completely disregarding the possibility that hey, maybe she just called to talk.

But nobody seems to do that nowadays. There always has to be a reason. Everything has to move forward. Nobody has time to just, talk. Well, I’m sure we all do actually, we’re just too lazy to attempt to keep a conversation going. Too much effort. Sooo, I’ve decided to put a challenge for myself. I’m going to have a fullout conversation with a different person every few days. And it’ll be a person that I really haven’t talked to in a while. Or maybe I’ll just take the time to ask some people “How are you?” instead of “Why’d you call?” I wonder if people even remember how to say “how are you” and how to answer with something other than “Not much” or “good.” See, that’s why online conversations always end. And once again, nobody wants to take the effort to continue conversations.

Well anyway, it’d do alot of good for me. It’s worth a try. 8DD

3 Responses to “Hello, Goodbye.”

  1. Slamdunk said

    Sounds like a good challenge.

    When we moved up north a few years ago, we immediately noticed how, in general, less-friendly folks are. One neighbor from NYC even explained to me how it annoys him when someone he doesn’t know says hello to him on the street–he felt that hellos should be reserved for only people that you have at least introduced yourself to. Strange place…

  2. Ed said

    Ah, i always like your posts. They make me think, too.

    This one in particular reminds me of..Fahrenheit 451. “But nobody seems to do that nowadays. There always has to be a reason. Everything has to move forward.” I strongly agree with you..I really think the way we categorize our friends isn’t..good..plus, our personality changes based on which one’s we’re with. I wanna try to do that too.

  3. Christina said

    i think i’ll take up this challenge too
    thumbs up jessie<3 :)

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